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Coming Out

Coming out is when you share your gender identity and/or sexual orientation with others. For many of you, it is a big step to make and can be a daunting idea. If you feel like you’re not ready to come out or you decide not to, that is completely okay. It is a decision that only you should have the power to make if/when you are ready and feel safe.

If you don’t feel comfortable or safe coming out to your parents or need additional support, there are many ways you can still receive the support that you deserve, such as from your healthcare provider.

For more information on coming out, visit this page from The Trevor Project.

Coming Out to Your Doctor

You’re not required to discuss your gender or sexuality with your healthcare provider, but it’s best to be honest. Your provider will know if you might need different preventative care, treatments, or counseling. The more information you can provide to your provider, the better care they can give you.

If you’re 14 years or older, you can ask about your healthcare provider’s privacy policies in case you’d like to keep details about your gender and/or sexuality private from your parents. You can read details about patient privacy on the Confidentiality page.

You can find more LGBTQ+ resources on the Additional Resources page.

Content reviewed by Mx. Patricio Battani, MPH (Director of Health Equity, Waikīkī Health)

Last Updated: September 4, 2020 by Phyllis Raquinio