Everything you need to know to keep yourself safe

“What Puts Me At Risk For an STD?” FAQ’s

  1. Doesn’t my clinician test me for STDs every time I see them?

STD testing isn’t always a part of a routine exam at the clinician’s office. If you want to get tested, you have to ask for it. Ready to talk to a clinician? Click here.

  1. Can I get tested without my parents knowing about it?

Yes. Hawaii state law protects your confidentiality. For more information on how to get confidential testing, see our confidentiality page.

  1. If I’m honest about having an STD in the past will I be able to date again?

Being honest about your testing history, current STD status, and your commitment to practicing safe sex is one of the best ways to show your partner that you care about them. Your STD status does not determine your worth or the amount of respect you deserve from a partner. All STDs are treatable, even if they’re not all curable. If you have an infection, like syphilis or gonorrhea, you can quickly resolve the issue with your doctor. If you have a virus, like genital herpes or HIV, it’s critical that you tell your partner about your status.

  1. Can I stop using condoms when I know my partner well enough?

No. Your partner could still have an STD even if he or she doesn’t have any visible symptoms. The safest method is to use both a condom and a reliable form of birth control. If you choose to stop using condoms, you are at risk for STD and unplanned pregnancy, so you and your partner should be tested regularly and use a reliable form of birth control consistently and correctly. More information about birth control methods can be found here.

Look here for different ways you can get an STD!

  1. If I’m not having vaginal sex or I’m LGBTQ+, do I need to have safe sex or get tested?

Yes. STDs can be spread during oral sex and genital touching, or rubbing against the infected genitals of another person. Anal sex actually has an even higher rate of contracting an STD, so it’s extremely important that you use condoms when practicing anal sex. Safe sex and STD screening are still important even for those who don’t need contraception.

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  1. Can virgins have STDs?

It depends on how you define “virgin.” A common definition of virgin is someone who has not had vaginal sex but may have had oral or anal sex. STDs can be passed on from oral, anal, vaginal, and genital contact. So even if you consider yourself a virgin, you may be at risk.

  1. If I’ve already had unprotected sex with a new partner, do I need a condom when I have sex with him or her again?

Yes. Both you and your partner should get tested for STDs before you have sex again, and use condoms every time you have sex. Even if you both have negative test results today, the safest option to avoid pregnancy and STDs is to use a condom and a reliable form of birth control to every single time you have sex. If you don’t do so now, it’s never too late to start!

  1. Can I get pregnant the first time I have vaginal sex?

Absolutely. ANY time you have vaginal sex you can get pregnant. Use both a condom and a reliable form of birth control the first time and every time you have vaginal sex.

  1. Can a girl get pregnant during her period?

Yes. Sperm can stay alive for several days in the vagina. Even if you had sex a few days ago, the girl could ovulate (release an egg) now and become pregnant.

  1. What is the best way to protect myself from STDs and unplanned pregnancy?

Abstinence! Although it’s obvious, the best way to stay safe is to not have sex. It may seem like everyone is doing it, but really fewer than half of all high school students have ever had sex. In addition, teens are much more vulnerable to contracting an STD. But if you decide to have sex, be sure to use condoms and birth control.

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